A newcomer to DA. He's spent a year watching me post here and finally decided to add an account. Go me! The persausive one! He is often with me at many a photoshoot, and is much more patient than me at waiting for the right shot. Go visit his page or I'll have to tie your shoelaces together and carry you there.

MUAH!!!

Mood: Hot, hot, hot
Listening to: Led Zepplin - Kashmir
Reading: Magic's Pawn - Mercedes Lakey
Watching: The Prophecy














Now it's no surprise I spend time in chatrooms. I write with friends, or hang out, or play music on my streaming radio feed for them to listen in. Which recently, I've managed to aquire a few new friends . You see while I own the radio stream, I don't DJ the whole time. There's just no way I could broadcast music 24 hours a day, much as I love the tunes. So while I do spend alot of time there, I'm not always broadcasting. Sometimes I listen to the other DJ's; sometimes I watch the conversations, sometimes I write and sometimes, hell I cyber. Yes it's true. (Waits for the collective gasps to subside)

For those of you not in the know, the term cybersex or computer sex is a virtual sex encounter in which two or more persons connected remotely via a computer network send one another sexually explicit messages describing a sexual experience. It is a form of role-playing in which the participants pretend they are having actual sexual intercourse, by describing their actions and responding to their chat partners in a mostly written form designed to stimulate their own sexual feelings and fantasies. The quality of a cybersex encounter typically depends upon the participants' abilities to evoke a vivid, visceral mental picture in the minds of their partners. Imagination and suspension of disbelief are also critically important. Cybersex can occur either within the context of existing or intimate relationships, e.g. among lovers who are geographically separated, or among individuals who have no prior knowledge of one another and meet in virtual spaces or cyberspaces and may even remain anonymous to one another. In some contexts cybersex is enhanced by the use of webcams to transmit real-time video of the partners.

Thank you FreeDictionary.com.

Cybersex is sometimes colloquially called "cybering". Channels used to initiate cybersex are not necessarily exclusively devoted to that subject, and participants in any Internet chat may suddenly receive a message with any possible variation of the text "Wanna cyber?" Cybersex is seen by some as a humorous, pointless, insignificant and meaningless act that carries no real emotional weight or emotional repercussions. Others believe that the sexual feeling exhibited by participants in virtual intercourse is very real and can be just as emotionally significant as feelings that occur during sexual intercourse. It also can play an important role in long-distance relationships. Cybersex is most commonly performed in Internet chat rooms (such as IRC or web chats) and on instant messaging systems. It is also fairly frequent in on-line role-playing games.

Again thank you FreeDictionary.com

Funny story, my friend who incidently is my spotlight this time around, recently had such a thing happen to him during an on-line role-playing game. Or rather he was messaged by mistake, asked the girl who messaged him if she had the right person, and when she stammered all upset he went on to explain that such behavior wasn't allowed in the game, and that the game moderator did monitor such things.

Now my chatfriends and I tend to have many of the same feelings about certain situations, kindred souls gathered I suppose. So during a recent broadcast one of them, who goes by the name Gently, went off on a tangent about what he likes and dislikes in the chat/cyberworld. Which got me to thinking and wondering, which lead me to the above descriptions. The dictionary entry also gave a slew of reasons for cybersex to exist, and why it is good or bad. If you'd like to read more go here:

Cybersex


So today people I'm curious. What are your thoughts? For or against? And the reasons why you choose one.

To be fair, as I'm asking you to give me your thoughts I'll give you mine. To me cybersex is not insignificant or meaningless, sometimes it's humorous though, believe you me. You see people can put their best foot forward in the cyberworld. You can choose to be all the things you are not. Smart, funny, attractive, rich. The list is endless. All of us want to be liked, and there's no bad hair days in cyber. Unless you wish them of course. I suppose what I'm getting at here, is this: there is the real you, and the ideal you. We all would like to be our ideal selves, but it's just not possible in life. We get angry, we get hurt, we have bad days. The main thing I've learned is: While the situations might not be real, the people are. There is another person on the other side, someone you are talking to, and that is never meaningless. Your words, your actions have consequences even on a computer screen.

I'm going to attach a poll as well I believe, as I'd like you to answer yes or no to whether you've had cybersex. Of course it's horribly rude of me to ask complete strangers that visit my page, so I want to leave that anonymous.

One word of warning. Please do not use this to express any hateful or bigoted comments to anyone that posts. I'd prefer reasonable responses, not "Well you're stupid for believing anyone is serious." or "How can you do that???" type of answers.


`lns